More Blonde Shade and Style (Hair Help Request)

Golden blonde... must be a 'chubby cheeks' day

My hair is actually this color now (above) since I bleached it!  Also, this style is more of what you always see from me. Anyway....I really liked my Britney Spears big hair poof, right? (See below).  I look like a cute fluffy poodle.. But "just friends" Bob didn't like it so much, and my sister and Christa both said they preferred the straighter style above..  Mr. Bob specifically said that the big blonde look was too light and too much hair for my age. I don't know. I guess I'm not a good judge of these things. Obviously I don't see myself as others see me.

The big hair look, also a lighter true blonde

You all know my natural shade is dark brown, but I used to bleach my hair. In fact, I was a bleach-blonde for pretty much the whole last half of the 90's anyway. These more recent photos are wig experiments, prompted by the fact that I lost some hair when they had me on Warfarin a while back. Yeah, rat poison, who would think that could be bad for you? Stupid doctor. But I digress... I still have a lot of natural hair but I've cut it short now so I can try some cute wigs.

I really like being a blonde. I don't know that it works for me, though. Like I said, I'm apparently no judge. So, help me out, here?   I want to be cute and sexy but NOT look like a ginormous freak, you know? Help!

You'll have to compensate, mentally, for the fact that my face (to me) looks fatter in the picture above. Le sigh. I don't know if it was the camera angle or if I'm retaining water.

My natural, 'pre-Warfarin' hair, in case you forgot